Our daughter's best friend is perfect for her and we want grandchildren. How can we help them?

This letter-writer is "desperately seeking grandchildren." Can she nudge her daughter towards her best friend?  Carolyn Hax says: Not so fast! "Sometimes," she notes, "you have to let people make their mistakes, especially when you're not being asked."  Carolyn and Shane O'Neill discuss the question on their new show, Life Hax. Find it wherever you get podcasts.