She slept with my husband. Then she slept with theirs. Do I tell?

Need advice? Welcome to Life Hax, a brand new podcast co-hosted by Washington Post advice columnists Carolyn Hax and Shane O’Neill. Each week, they’ll answer your most pressing questions about a wide range of personal issues, be it toxic family, messy romantic entanglements, or dysfunctional friendships. Come for the dishy stories, stay for Carolyn and Shane’s sharp insights into navigating the personal relationships that give us fits. Today’s questions are all about adultery. When there’s cheating in the air…whose job is it to spill the tea? Should some secrets just stay buried? Listen now to find out. 00:00 Welcome to Life Hax 00:41 Carolyn's seen it all 02:42 First question 04:31 Is this concern trolling? 08:00 This woman shouldn't be in the friend group anymore 10:01 When is it your place to tell a secret? 12:58 Find someone else to spill the beans! 16:08 Second question 19:49 Is the letter writer being petty? 21:40 Are these just bad friends? 24:10 Keep your peace and move on 26:53 Action item: How to handle someone else's secret